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"Enabling has implications for all codependents, because they generally sacrifice themselves to accommodate others’ needs, solve others’ problems, and assume more than their share of responsibility at work and in relationships."

"Once you’ve accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you."

How to Live Without Regrets

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. Discover and follow your own path in life.
2. Don’t be afraid to say “no” to other people.
3. Make character a goal, and top priority.
4. Don’t procrastinate, or fail to do the things that matter.
5. Spend your time with people who affirm and value you.
6. Don’t fear being judged or…

Self Justification in Marriage

"Every marriage is a story, and like all stories it is subject to its participant’s distorted perceptions and memories that preserve the narrative as each side sees it."

Tavris, C., & Aronson, E. (2007). Mistakes were made (but not by me): Why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts. Orlando, Fla: Harcourt.

"Be more concerned about your character than your reputation … because your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think of you."

- John Wooden (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

Viewing All Living Beings as Supreme

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The highest state of being is full enlightenment, and the main path to enlightenment is the realizations of love, compassion, bodhichitta, and the six perfections. We can only develop these realizations with the help of other living beings - we need them to practice love, compassion, giving,…

"If someone is emitting negative vibes, don’t try to tolerate it or ignore what you’re feeling for the sake of being nice. Defuse it by not giving them much energy, effort, and time without thinking twice."

- Awakened Vibrations (via awakenedvibrations)